Esther Perel's "Mating in Captivity" argues that domesticity and sexual desire can paradoxically coexist, and explains how to sustain lust within long-term relationships. Drawing on over twenty years as a couples therapist, Perel uses case studies and discussion to demonstrate that exciting, playful, and poetic sex is achievable even in established partnerships. The book offers a provocative exploration of intimacy and sex, revealing what it takes to successfully integrate desire into the home.
The central aim is to transform how readers live and love by addressing the complexities of desire in committed relationships. Perel's insights, described as wise, witty, and revelatory, provide a straightforward approach to cultivating a more vibrant sexual connection, challenging conventional notions about the relationship between comfort and eroticism.
Key concepts
- Paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire — The idea that the comfort and familiarity of long-term partnerships can coexist with, and even fuel, intense sexual passion.
- Bringing lust home — The practical application of strategies and understandings to cultivate and sustain sexual desire within the domestic sphere of a relationship.
- Sustaining desire — The ongoing effort and specific approaches needed to maintain sexual passion and excitement over time in a committed relationship.
- Erotic intelligence — A respected area of expertise focused on understanding and enhancing sexual experience and connection.